Saggy Boobs (NSFW)

email time!

Hi Laci! So there’s something I’m really insecure about. My breasts. I’m sixteen years-old, my cup size is 36 C-D, and I tend to hunch over a lot, but my breasts are quite saggy. I hate it and it’s something I’m really insecure about, especially when I see other women with ‘perfectly perky’ golden globes. I’m scared that when I decide to get intimate with someone that they’re going to find me unattractive. I’m quite a confident person, and I’m fine with my body except for this/these. Do you possibly have any answers on how to make them better, or at least help me be not as insecure?
-Much love and thanks, J.

Ah, the ol’ “saggy boobs” conundrum. Yet another way that thousands of females come to feel shitty about themselves because of the absurd beauty standards we are held to. Saggy boobs are typically associated with “old women”, which is one of the reasons why they are considered “ugly”. We do not value the beauty of women as they age, only when they look young (notice the obsession with youth in the beauty industry).

While men are affected to some degree, it’s not nearly as bad. It’s a widely-held notion that men become more attractive as they age.

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Real Bodies: Normal Breasts

Note: this post is NFSW, or “not safe for work”. I am still deciding if I’m okay with rerouting posts with nudity to a different page on the website (I didn’t build this website to have to censor myself again). For now, save your blog viewing for home if this is a problem. :)

As I alluded to in THE BREAST EFFECT (a Sex+ episode from a few weeks ago), there are many women who feel insecure about their breasts. Part of this is because the only examples we readily see, if any, are from porn. While I’m personally pro-porn, I feel one of the major downfalls is that the bodies in mainstream porn–the most accessible type of porn–are rarely real. This can have damaging effects on our self-perception because the tendency is to compare ourselves to something that generally does not happen naturally. Further, this can be damaging to the partners of women, who may come to expect breasts to look differently than they actually do.

I find looking at real naked bodies to be an empowering and important experience. When I look at them, I quickly realize that my insecurities are blown out of proportion. It also helps me remember how natural nudity is; that bodies are my mother nature’s artwork–to be loved and embraced, at the very least! So, I found a website that has a gallery of real breasts. You may be surprised to find they do not look like typical “porn boobs”. Real breasts have a different sit, they are not perfectly symmetrical, the nipple isn’t always in the same spot, breast size varies tremendously, and so do the areola and nipple color/size.




The website is 007b. I strongly recommend you go have a surf around. I am not endorsing what they say on the website (though some of it is good), but rather the array of real breast pictures and personal stories to accompany it. I have been considering doing a continuation of “Real Bodies” with various parts of the body from Sex+ community user submissions–including genitals. I’d love to know if folks would be interested & willing to participate, granted all identities were completely and untraceabley anonymous.