Sex Toy Myths: BUSTED!

In this exclusive video, I respond to the following myths:

- “If we use sex toys, my girlfriend won’t want me anymore!”
- “Sex toys mean you are desperate or abnormal.”
- “Using sex toys will result in a loss of sensation or the inability to orgasm.”
- “Sex toys are only for women.”

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Pervertible (n.) : An everyday object which can be used for sexual pleasure.

Accessibility: All, free(ish)
Body served: Male and female bodied
Main function: Sensation play, especially during warm weather


1. Use ice to make chilly trails along your partner’s skin. Follow up with warmth from your skin or tongue.
2. Trace her breasts with ice cubes, making circular motions as your move inward toward her nipples.
3. Put an ice cube in your mouth while giving your partner oral sex. The alternating sensations will make them feel amazing.
4. Exchange an ice cube while kissing to add a new sensation to a familiar routine. If you’re the silly type, you could make a game out of it.
5. Use ice on typically ignored parts of the body. Body parts with thin skin will bring goosebumps of pleasure! (i.e. back of the knees, crease of elbows, behind ears)

For most people, it helps to avoid holding ice directly on sensitive body parts (penis, clitoris, nipples, etc) for too long. Ice causes the blood vessels to constrict, and too much constriction will result in a temporary numbing sensation. However, for individuals that are hypersensitive, exposure to ice may help dull the intensity to make sensations more pleasurable. Note that extreme exposure, which generally requires more than just an ice cube, could result in frost bite.

have fun… :)


Pervertible (n.) : An everyday object which can be used for sexual pleasure.

So, why is a make up brush a pervertible? Well….. :)

Accessibility: All, under $10
Body served: Male and female bodied
Main function: Penetration & sensation play

The Handle
Make-up brushes can be found for cheap, or you may already have them lying around the house. Make-up brushes with the fluffy tips usually have thicker handles which can be used for vaginal or anal penetration. The handle is a great for intro & beginners because they are thinner than most dildos, span only 4-5 inches long, *and* they usually get thicker toward the tip. Nice! However, to make your experience more enjoyable:
-Make sure that if you’re using a wooden handle, that it is sealed off like mine is (splinters in vaj=OMGWTF OUCH).
-If it is plastic, make sure it does not have any plastic cracking off.
-Make sure the brush is new or thoroughly washed.
-If you’re buying a brush, make sure the handle doesn’t have any unpleasant bumps when you rub it.

Otherwise, pleasure is yours!*

The brush-y part
Erm…okay so I’m kind of a n00b when it comes to terminology, but the part of the brush where the hair is can be used for all kinds of sensation play. Nips and clits come to mind especially ;). For an extra twist, use a blindfold–it will heighten the sensation!

>>Want more pervertibles posts? Have your own favorite pervertible? See more usages for the make up brush? Let me know in the comments.

*As always, you alone are responsible for how you use your body and what you put in it. Always make sure that the materials composing your toys are safe for your body and that you are using them in a safe manner. :)

1st Stop: Masturbation Station

Perhaps I’m overly spunky, but when I hear that somebody doesnt self pleasure, I feel a sudden burst of sympathy. It’s funny, because I impulsively classify it as tragic news. “You don’t masturbate? I am so sorry!” Cue hugs, back rubs, and braiding hair.


Any how, when I ask these characters (whom I meet at parties, from the internet, or students of mine) why it is they choose not to masturbate, I am usually met with a shrug or an apathetic sigh, as if to say, “Do we really have to go there?”

Okay fine, no, we don’t have to “go there” together…but you should definitely go there alone. Here are 10 reasons why:

1. Self pleasure is PLEASURABLE. Something that feels so good without hurting anyone can’t be that bad, right?
2. It promotes comfort and familiarity with your own body–and not JUST your genitals! You live in that skin–don’t you want to know how it works? :P
3. Self pleasure makes collaborative pleasure better. In other words, when you know your body better, you have better sex. This is because you are more relaxed and more familiar with the sexual responses of your body. Familiarity also helps turn, “Erm–you’re just a little off down there.” into “Can you move up a little bit? You’re just missing my clit.”
4. You can’t get pregnant. Or STDs/STIs. And…you don’t have to cuddle afterward. Well, if you don’t want. You may occasionally feel the urge to rub up on various objects.
5. Self pleasure promotes emotional well-being. Stimulation and orgasm releases endorphines just like laughter and a good work out. It’s an instant mood lift–without 10 easy payments of $19.95.
6. In fact, the endorphines released during self-pleasure are like a miracle drug. They can help you sleep an relieve stress. This is owed to the increased circulation and contractions of the muscles as well.
7. Self pleasure can alleviate or dull out menstrual cramps. The contractions of the muscles during orgasm are particularly beneficial. To be honest, it has helped me out much more than a hot pad and Midol.
8. Self pleasure can curb inappropriate or undesirable impulses. Face it, your bio teacher isn’t going to have sex with you. She will in your fantasies, though! Just keep it on the DL so nobody gets hurt.
9. Self pleasure helps maintain strong PC muscles (w00t stronger orgasms!) and good circulation in the body. It’s kind of like exercise, but most gyms don’t have a masturbation machine.
10. Self pleasure promotes openness and comfort with sexuality — we all know that this brings a whole host of positive energy, and if you’re lucky, a little bounce in your step.