If you were around yesterday, you may have witnessed my fit of rage when I found out my “CLIT-ICAL THINKING!” video had been flagged.
The clitoral guide was, for a few hours, restricted to only those 18+. Meanwhile, my prostate guide stayed up for the world to see after months of being up. Keep in mind, 60% of my audience is registered in the 13-17 age category.
This clear disparity between the sexes access to information is particularly troublesome. It affirms the fact that people are more comfortable with male sexuality than female sexuality, and that many think pleasure-based sex ed is for “adults” only. It keeps teens, and especially teen women, in the dark about sexuality and forces kids to stumble their way through. It doesn’t have to be this way.
Stigma.
Stigmastigmastigma.
It will be the death of me, I tell you.
Here in the US, the sex positive fight is AWN. BIG TIEM.
There are attacks every fucking day on sex ed, sexuality, and peoples’ right to their own bodies.
Here on the internet, many of us find a retreat. We find the answers we’ve been denied. We find community. We share experiences & information. We help each other to grow & to build strong identities and relationships.
You know, everything sex ed is *not* in most of the world.
Following the flag notice, Allan (my tech partner in crime) and I worked to restore access to those who were being denied. I contacted YouTube directly and started the appeals process while Allan got an unrestricted version up on the site. I received tons and tons of support from everyone yesterday, and I am so grateful for it. Y’all are the best SEX+ warriors teh internets has known!
Today, I received a notice that the video would return to its unrestricted state. HO00RRRRRAAAYYYY!!
Not gonna lie….I’m shocked!
I’ve had a bout or 2 (or 5…or 10….) with YouTube since I’ve been uploading, and usually the result isn’t so positive. I’ve had a handful of videos outright removed. What gives?
Last October, I visited the YouTube Headquarters. On my 22nd birthday, no less!
I met with the peeps from YouTube about my channel, trajectory, and….boundaries for uploads.
Dude.
They were legitimately cool about it. No doubt I had villainized them because of our history & framed them as a sort of “conservative” company who would meet me with resistance. But, not in the slightest!
They encouraged me to do what I do & told me they valued my contribution to the spectrum of resources available on YouTube…made me feel happeh inside ^-^. They told me how they handle flagging & basically not to worry about it (I’m still skeptical). They also offered to hook me up with Dr. Ruth sometime in the future.
KEWWLLLL!!!1!
I can’t say with certainty that this is what has given me some extra mobility in terms of keeping things accessible for yall, but….
I’m sure it didn’t hurt. :)
Thanks again for all your voices of support & encouragement. Sending you mega-over9000 hugs. ♥
PS
Here’s more on the attacks on the clitoris:
Clitoris talk removed from Anne Frank’s Diary
Female Genital Mutilation in Africa: over 92 million young females mutilated so far
Thanks for the hugs :) you deserve o ne for all your amazing work *hugs*
Zomgg! Yayy! I was afraid for a lil bit! That’s soo amazing that they unflagged it! <3 <3 <3 I also found that Anne Frank article interesting… its crazy how people see simple facts about the human body as "sexual" any girl can look down and realize what was written… such sillyness.
VICTORY FOR SEXY TIME!!!!!!!! this is a huge victory. THEY CANNOT SURPRESS OUR RIGHT TO KNOWLEDGE! Im getting tired of people thinking that they can decide other peoples lives and how they learn about things. GO LACI
Hi Laci,
Wow – so sorry to hear that’s happened to your channel. However, on the bright side you do have the ear of some of the staff at YT which definitely goes in your favour and I hope that your videos get re-instated quickly.
You’ve come a really long way since your early days on YT, don’t let the bastards grind you down and keep on doin’ what you’re doing :)
All the best,
Mike
Hi
great the video is up again.
Have you noticed that in the link by the WHO the detrimental consequences of female genital mutilation lack something important? THE POSSIBLE IMPAIRMENT ON THE ABILITY TO EXPERIENCE SEXUAL PLEASURE?
What the hell WHO? Can anyone explain that to me?
i’m so glad youtube backed the non-restriction of clit-ical thinking. as it should. i grew up in a very strict religious environment where “sex ed” was always presented as this sort of dirty conspiracy to spread promiscuity and further the “gay agenda”. it’s sad how much ignorance exists in the place of tolerance. i find your vlog to be educational, funny, and full of awesome. keep up the good work and we, your loyal watchers, will always have your back. :)
We, Laci’s Cunt Warriors, have struck a major victory (can a man be a cunt warrior?). It is very good news indeed and we are all happy for you Laci :D
*hugs*
Your soo pretty laci.
I’m glad you prevailed.
As a 60ish old guy, I wish someone like you had been around when I was young, but I’m glad you’re here now.
Keep it up!!
Just goes to show that when people work together, they can accomplish great change. That, and a lot of your supporters are as feisty and determined as you are ;P
I AM A SEX+ WARRIOR, AND I’LL NEVER STOP DEFENDING MY SEXUAL RIGHTS.
Excellent, another victory, however small, for Sex+!
“It affirms the fact that people are more comfortable with male sexuality than female sexuality”
That part reminded me of something I have been thinking about for awhile. It troubles me that most men -and even women!- that I know seem to view sex as very elaborate masturbation for men.
I actually got into an argument a short while ago with a guy about it. He had said that he expected a girl to give him a blow job very early on, but was uncomfortable chowing on her. I said that it was ridiculously hypocritical of him and he went on to say that it’s “different”. To which I responded that it was bullshit.
I said that sex isn’t just elaborate masturbation and that women aren’t just really complicated sex toys and that it was selfish plain and simple to consider your own wants and needs important but not those of the person you are sexing.
Then he called me gay. Because what could be gayer than loving women? Anyway, then we punched each other.
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My PhD is in communication.
Are you pissed because teen women can’t view your vid or because kids can’t?
I think because that video got censored but not the male version.
I’ve been following you for awhile now, and I really appreciate what you did for us. Making that video accessible again could help a lot of people, and I just want to thank you for that..
…Sorry if my grammar is bad, I just woke up in the middle of the night..
Odd that i should come across this:
http://campaign.publicaffairsbriefing.co.uk/home.aspx?cid=52df5ae2-33d4-4779-9d80-fe9cd2f87aaa
on the same day as this issue!
I honestly (and it seems naively) thought we didn’t get abstinence preachers that much here in the UK – let alone that they’d be listened to in the house of commons!
Aimed only at girls too? :( Makes me very sad and angry.
It’s awesome that you got your video back up! :) A similar thing happened to Alex Day (nerimon) a while ago when he put up a video about how women shouldn’t have to rely solely on men for their sexual pleasure. I’m under 18 and I watched the video before it got flagged and I don’t think anything in it was too racy, but sure enough it soon got restricted to only people who were 18 or older, and I’m pretty sure it still is.
I had no idea! I’m glad to hear things are looking up and that YouTube is being so supportive of everything you to! Here’s to many more! :D
kudos to everything that you do for helping those understand human sexuality and to the elimination of the the stigma on female sexuality.
this is completely irrelevant but do you watch dragon ball z? every time you say something is over 9000 i think of an episode from it haha :p
This is why I got a account. There were a couple of videos on youtube that I wanted to see (they had the word fuck in them and were flagged). Therefore I got an account were I lied about my age.