Hi Laci! So there’s something I’m really insecure about. My breasts. I’m sixteen years-old, my cup size is 36 C-D, and I tend to hunch over a lot, but my breasts are quite saggy. I hate it and it’s something I’m really insecure about, especially when I see other women with ‘perfectly perky’ golden globes. I’m scared that when I decide to get intimate with someone that they’re going to find me unattractive. I’m quite a confident person, and I’m fine with my body except for this/these. Do you possibly have any answers on how to make them better, or at least help me be not as insecure?
-Much love and thanks, J.
Ah, the ol’ “saggy boobs” conundrum. Yet another way that thousands of females come to feel shitty about themselves because of the absurd beauty standards we are held to. Saggy boobs are typically associated with “old women”, which is one of the reasons why they are considered “ugly”. We do not value the beauty of women as they age, only when they look young (notice the obsession with youth in the beauty industry).
While men are affected to some degree, it’s not nearly as bad. It’s a widely-held notion that men become more attractive as they age.
As a female, when you’re constantly bombarded with images of big boobs that sit right underneath the collarbone, it can start to feel like your boobs are the exception. But defying gravity & the natural sit of breasts is the *real* exception. Or rather, the….unreal exception.
I don’t have any ways to make your boobs better because there’s nothing wrong with them. Really. There isn’t. Not a damn thing. It’s normal for some breasts to sit lower, some to sit higher. And typically, with big boobs, they sit lower. Just look at this gallery with lots of real boobs.
Are they “perfectly” perky golden globes? (Hint: nope!) It’s just not worth comparing your boobs to other peoples’ — they’re all wonderful, squishy, beautiful boobies.
For the record, I have big boobs. They sit lower than the typical lift of my bra. I occasionally fold to the pressure and wish they were higher up….but nobody I’ve been with has ever indicated that they found them unattractive (quite the opposite, actually).
Except one guy. While statistically insignificant in my experience, assholes do exist. Once, this guy that I was with asked me if I had considered getting a boob lift. I never called him up again. HELLLLOooooOOO dude, my body is sexyhotbeautiful. I have no time for love interests who don’t appreciate that. It’s worth mentioning that this guy was way too into degrading porn and obsessed over plastic surgery babes. Why was I with him? Idk, out of my damn mind most likely. His comment woke me right up…although I do still feel a very small twinge of hurt when I think about what he said to me.
The reality is this: we live in a world that expects us to have huge boobs that magically don’t make contact with the skin below it. It’s really strange, when you think about it…. (floating boobies, anyone?) Don’t let the strangeness stop you from having fun with respectful, worthy people. Even if you do fall into a bad experience as I did, recognize it as a flaw in that person, not a flaw in your body.
Tips to feel more secure:
1. Set healthy standards for yourself.
2. Find partners who value you & the female form.
3. Spend more time looking at real boobs than fake ones.
4. Give your boobies lots of TLC. <3
5. Don't give a fuck because you're beautiful.
From one saggy boob sister to another, go forth and conquer.