The “Pro-Life” Movement: Dangerous, Selfish, Lazy

So…362 anti-abortion bills were proposed in 2011, and over 350 have been proposed so far for 2012.

Anybody else getting nervous?

You’ve probably noticed that Planned Parenthood, a sexual health services provider for millions of people living in the USA, has come under an extreme political attack. Major threats to defund the organization, straw-man sting operations, and multiple bombings of clinics are just a few recent events in this chaotic spiral.

Planned Parenthood provides a much needed service in the United States: birth control, family planning, pregnancy testing, cancer screenings, STI prevention, HIV/AIDS services, and various other vital reproductive health services that a healthy country desperately needs access to. So why all the violence?

Because 3% of Planned Parenthood’s funds go toward abortion for accidental pregnancies.

Extremist Christian groups, under the dishonest banner of “Pro-Life”, have thus made it their top priority to shut down the entire organization that is Planned Parenthood in order to stop the abortion care. The debate about this Planned Parenthood/abortion/pro life stuff typically revolves around how we should feel about abortion.

But I think invested time and resources in that debate is futile.

Humans will never have universal feelings about abortion. We just won’t – it’s a personal issue that examines how humans feel about their own existence. Tough stuff. The sooner we become okay with having different feelings about it, the sooner we can take a look at the practical side of things….that is, the scary amounts of terrorism surrounding access to abortion. I know the word “terrorism” sounds extreme and dramatic in itself, but if we’re going by dictionary definitions, this one fits the bill. There has been:

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How Oppression Works

We talk about sexism, racism, heterosexism (homophobia), ageism, cissexism, and other systems of oppression a lot around these parts. However, there is occasionally some confusion about what oppression is and how it works in the context of social justice. Oppression is a complex topic. This blog will serve as a basic overview, or a starting point, to related conversations.

Oppression typically operates as a system. This means that there are multiple forces taking away someone’s power based on a part of their identity (their sex, sexual orientation, skin color, etc). All of these forces work together to marginalize, subordinate, dehumanize, or otherwise devalue groups of people.

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Disappointed with Momentum Con…. (and updates!)

Oh I have been posting so inconsistently! Pwees accept my apology lovebugs. I’ve been all over the place as of late working on getting Sex+ into meatspace. I visited Maker Studios in LA, held a DC meetup (pics here), attended Momentum Conference in DC, went to New England to work on a new project with Planned Parenthood, and have been working with a few universities–currently Stanford and UC Riverside–to do fun presentations and workshops with students.

Speaking of which, I am looking into working with more schools/organizations! I’m very excited to be working with Stanford and UC and am open to give presentations, workshops, or to facilitate student events. I did this on and off throughout college, but would like to make it a regular part of my work. If you are interested in working with me, now or in the future, shoot me an email!

Momentum Con – A Strange Experience

So, one of the weekends I was gone I was at the sex positive Momentum Conference. My, how disappointing. I wanted to sort of process this strange experience through my blog & talk about my feeeeelings.

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A rant about treating the youth like sh*t.

Rant tiem.

My entire life, I’ve constantly run into and dealt with older folks treat young people as if they are stupid, incapable, trouble makers, or a downright nuisance to have around. For these people, they see treating someone with respect as optional if they look too young. As a young person, I couldn’t fit the number of times I’ve been treated poorly by older folks -on no basis other than my age- on all my fingers and toes. As I’ve gotten older and gained more respect from people I work with, I still seem to deal with the same bs from strangers in various contexts. It comes up time and time again, and I do believe it’s because I am young (and, to make matters worse, I look even younger than I am). My partner and a few friends, who also look young for their age, have had similar experiences.

On a work trip I took a few weeks ago, I was at a higher end hotel that is patronized mostly by older professionals. I stayed there a few days and took particular notice of how cordial the front desk staff was. Smiles, stupid jokes, holding the door open, the whole shabang. On the day of my departure, I approached the desk and requested a shuttle to the airport. I was shocked to be met with a scolding and condescending lecture about how the shuttle was not available because I had not notified them in advance (regardless of the fact that when I was being picked up from the airport, they did not require a shuttle reservation). With a finger wag and a frown, the staff told me that I would have to make another arrangement. As I walked to the other side of the lobby to call a cab, I faintly overheard one clerk make a comment about irresponsible kids.

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50 More Ways To Be Sex Positive!

In this week’s sex+ called “The Slut Shamer“, I used a variety of mini-skits to give some basic principles of sex positivity. Here are 50 more things that I do to complement my sex positive lifestyle. Help grow this list by sharing your ways in the comments! Can you think of more ways to be sex positive? :)

explore & find out what feels good!

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