Look out for it in late May. See you then!
On this week’s Sex+ I gave a few tips for purchasing sex toys. Many of you have asked over the years, so here are some recommends for those of you interested in purchasing sex toys! I have tried or gotten positive reviews from friends/partner on all the following (clickable):
My favorite brands are Lelo, Jopen, and Tantus (for male toys). I find that they consistently make awesome, high quality sex toys. I’ve had the Lelo Liv for 4 years and it’s one of my absolute favorites. It’s rechargeable (yay!) and holds a charge FOREVER. I also really like the Jopen Vanity v6. It’s my favorite rabbit vibrator. Lelo’s Ina 2 is also amazing. If you want something on the cheap side, this butterfly vibrator packs a surprising punch! It also has yet to break down – a rarity for how inexpensive it is. I have video reviews of all these toys on this site.
One brand I will never purchase from again is Doc Johnson. Cheap, poor quality toys that consistently fail to deliver.
I think Edenfantasys is a great website to purchase from; very sex positive, queer & woman friendly. I used to do sex toy reviews for them (hence why I have so many expensive toys….lol). They ship fast and are very discreet. It doesn’t look like you’re getting a sex toy in the mail! They usually have pretty good deals (I think there’s a 20% off thing going on right now) and they have an easy return policy. There are other shops out there that are totally awesome as well! I can’t speak to any experience with them though. :)
Hey everyone! Apologies for being MIA on the blog (again). I have a million things going on for just a few more weeks and then I’m hoping to have regular posting again!
Anywho, I’m going to be giving a guest lecture at UC Riverside this Wednesday at 7PM in 302 HUB. It is open to the public and free! Then, for my online peeps, I will be having dinner at Jafang Pizza afterward.
My presentation will provide you with the tools you need to have the “best sex ever”! Topics I’ll be covering include sexual anatomy, masturbation, STI stigma & prevention, enthusiastic consent, and doorways to sexploration.
After a bit of yelping, Jafang Pizza seems to be the only place relatively close to the school with cheap food & drinks that is open late. Not a lot of options out there, so I hope this one will fit the bill! Just like my other meetups, come on out for some lively chatter and nomnoms!
Hope to meet some of you there! :)
“I feel attracted to x, but I’m not sure if I qualify as ‘this label’ or ‘that label’, can you help explain these labels so I can pick the right one?”
Pansexual, asexual, gray-a, demisexual, boyqueen, genderqueer, panromantic, aromantic, homosexual, bisexual, queer, femme, andro, agender, bigender, butch, ….omg there are so many identity label choices!
Here’s a reminder about all those choices: you define those labels, those labels do not define you!
Labels are tools to understand the vast array of gender/romantic/sexual identity possibilities; they are not rigidly defined categories of people that you need to properly fit your identity under. You are already you, with or without the labels.
Instead, it’s helped me to reframe it like this:
Say it’s your sexual orientation label in question. Start thinking about what you do/don’t enjoy sexually, who you enjoy being sexual with, what kinds of things make you horny, what you’re curious about, and so on. Then, whenever you want or need a label to describe your sexual orientation, try on a label you feel comfortable with. Use the label so long as it helps you, but never allow yourself to feel any pressure to do that label “right”. You ARE your label. Your label is not you.
See what I’m saying?
As soon as a label starts to define you instead of you defining it, it’s time to drop it like it’s hot.
So…362 anti-abortion bills were proposed in 2011, and over 350 have been proposed so far for 2012.
Anybody else getting nervous?
You’ve probably noticed that Planned Parenthood, a sexual health services provider for millions of people living in the USA, has come under an extreme political attack. Major threats to defund the organization, straw-man sting operations, and multiple bombings of clinics are just a few recent events in this chaotic spiral.
Planned Parenthood provides a much needed service in the United States: birth control, family planning, pregnancy testing, cancer screenings, STI prevention, HIV/AIDS services, and various other vital reproductive health services that a healthy country desperately needs access to. So why all the violence?
Because 3% of Planned Parenthood’s funds go toward abortion for accidental pregnancies.
Extremist Christian groups, under the dishonest banner of “Pro-Life”, have thus made it their top priority to shut down the entire organization that is Planned Parenthood in order to stop the abortion care. The debate about this Planned Parenthood/abortion/pro life stuff typically revolves around how we should feel about abortion.
But I think invested time and resources in that debate is futile.
Humans will never have universal feelings about abortion. We just won’t – it’s a personal issue that examines how humans feel about their own existence. Tough stuff. The sooner we become okay with having different feelings about it, the sooner we can take a look at the practical side of things….that is, the scary amounts of terrorism surrounding access to abortion. I know the word “terrorism” sounds extreme and dramatic in itself, but if we’re going by dictionary definitions, this one fits the bill. There has been: